Who is your soulmate? What is a soulmate? I have answers to these questions for myself but I’m not going to reveal the “who” yet. If you’ve read blogs on this site before, you probably know who it is.
M1 just returned home from 4 years at the University of
Western Ontario where she spent the last 3 years living with 4 other girls in a
house. At that age, there are lots of
relationship issues and gossip happening.
M1 herself has been with a boyfriend for almost two years now. She tells me about her relationship and about
her friends’ relationships. Sometimes
more than I need to know, but I guess I should be happy about that since other
parents complain that their kids never talk to them.
The topic has come up about how people should behave in
relationships. What secrets do you keep
from your significant other, if any? What
types of things do you tell your significant other vs. your friends? Can a good friend become a significant other? When answering these questions to M1 (and M2
and M3), I brought up the concept of a soulmate.
I checked Google and AI, etc. and they have definitions of a
soulmate. I’m going to reject those
definitions and provide one of my own, as I alluded to in the first
paragraph. To me, a soulmate is the
first person you think of when something significant happens. It’s also the person you want to text when
something insignificant/frivolous happens. If I were younger, I would say BAE instead of soulmate. BAE = Before Anyone Else, meaning this person
is my first priority, the first person I tell things to, before anyone else. The special thing about a soulmate (or BAE)
is that the identity of that person will always be in your heart. I’ve mentioned before that I’m a logical
person, but this is one area where emotion takes over. From a young age, I’ve always said my parents
are the most important people in my life.
They brought me into this world, raised me, and loved me
unconditionally. Therefore, they are my
first priority. I would side with them
over anyone else, even my significant other.
That is what logic tells me. Then
how come when something happens, like a new Star Wars movie is coming out or I
got a promotion at work or I saw cat chasing a dog, I think of someone
else? Because that is what my heart
tells me.
Today is YC's and my 27th wedding anniversary. Ever since we started dating, she has been my soulmate. Every time something happens, I would think of telling her. I would tell her about my day at work – projects, meetings, lunch conversations, the commute home, etc. If I hung out with my guy friends, I would tell her about the stupid things we did and talked about. It doesn’t matter if it’s not important – like getting ice cream at work today. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t care – like the Leafs just won the draft lottery. I always think, “Holy cow! I can’t wait to tell YC!”
This continued to happen after she left us. Something would happen, I would think of
telling YC about it, then I would be sad that I couldn’t do it in person. When important things happen, I will visit
her and tell her. For example, M1 and M2
going to university, M3 getting a co-op placement, my niece and nephew getting
engaged (not to each other, just to clarify).
But it’s telling her about all the little things that I miss. Sometimes when I get a quiet moment, like at
night before I sleep, I recall all the things during the day that I would tell
YC.
I got a free sample in the PATH today. Have to wash bed sheets this weekend. It was so windy my umbrella broke again. I forgot my water bottle. I bumped into Fred and Ethel today. My coworkers and I went to Chinatown for
lunch. A pigeon almost flew into my
head! There’s a new Toy Story movie
coming out. Pantene’s on sale at
Shoppers’ Drug Mart. There was a big
lineup at Union Station just to go up the escalator. Connor McDavid might come to Toronto.
YC, my love, I hope you have a good day today. Happy Anniversary. I will talk to you again tonight, my soulmate.
Big Oh
