We never
addressed the elephants in the room – neither YC nor I. So I should just come out and say it
now. YC was diagnosed with stage 4
ovarian cancer back in January 2014 – elephant #1. After a long and heroic battle, she passed away in March 2020 – elephant #2.
My wife
loved to write. She wrote when she was
happy, she wrote when she was sad, and she wrote when she was bored. She started this blog to help her deal with
her diagnosis – to give her an outlet to express her feelings. She wrote because it was therapeutic for
her. But she never once mentioned the c
word. She alluded to her being sick but she never used that word. She told me she didn’t want to
because she didn’t want to give the disease more energy, more control over
her. I never mentioned it either. Even to this day, I have trouble hearing the
word.
YC wrote about many things in this blog during her battle – our family, significant events, family trips and outings, restaurant reviews, books she was reading, movies/TV shows, and sometimes just random thoughts. There were also some entries written by my daughters and by me. After she left us, I re-read all her blogs. Then I thought, “What do I do with this blog?” Do we continue it? What should I write about?
YC set up a
comments section because several friends and family members would email her about
blogs she had written. She thought the
comments section would be more convenient.
But no one left comments. If
there are any readers out there that still read this blog, perhaps you can leave
me a comment to let me know what you would like to happen to this blog? Do you want my daughters and me to continue
blogging here? If so, what do you want
to read about? Our lives? How we’re dealing with COVID-19? Movies and TV shows we’ve picked up? School?
Family and friends?
I see there
are views of this blog in France, Poland, and the Ukraine. We don’t know anyone in those countries, so perhaps
there is a readership following of this blog outside of our family and friends.
Leave a comment and let us know how you got interested in my wife’s
blogging.
Big Oh
My strong recommendation is that you keep this blog. Whether you blog here once a month or once a year, more often or less often.....that's fine. Writing can be very therapeutic. You might want to add a link to Jas' Video Blogs. One of the girls may love to write in the future as well. Yes, so keep it. In terms of topics, blog whatever you want.
ReplyDeleteKeep writing. Your girls are role models for mine. They see them as the cool girl cousins. Write whatever you want. There is so much going on right now that writing is a great outlet. If they would rather write in their own journal privately, that is ok too.
ReplyDeleteI check in here every once in a while. I don't get to see your family very often, so it was a nice way to keep up. I'd love to keep reading about how things are going if you keep posting. :)
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