Sometimes just getting good grades, or being the good, obedient one that follows all the rules, may not always get you the recognition you feel you deserve. You need to promote yourself & your abilities, and be vocal about what you want instead of waiting around for someone to notice you.
Being vocal and speaking up doesn’t mean you have to be obnoxious - you can advocate for yourself and still be modest and likeable.
Normal, healthy, fourteen year olds should NOT be afraid to take public transit.
Our lives are so busy & filled with so much anxiety already. There are so many things we “have” to do; in our limited free time when we do get to choose, we need to be selective and do things that will give us joy, or at the very least calmness. When it is our free time, the only obligation we should have is to ourself - to be the best, healthiest, happiest person we can be.
The relationships we have doesn’t need to look like what society/culture/peers deems to be normal. If the interactions are comfortable, not contrived, and everyone involved is content, then just accept that it is a normal and healthy relationship that is working for you right now.
When children mis-behave they need to be disciplined. They need rules and punishments. They need to know expectations, and they need to be accountable for their actions. Children need predictability and when all of this is done with reasoning they will feel safe and loved. Some children just need to be spanked. And some need therapy.
Spend time with people that give you joy. But it’s OK to say “no” to those same people once-in-awhile because we all need quiet time too. Don’t be so insecure - I still love you!
Parents shouldn’t have to watch their children die. Is it terrible of me to wish my parents die before I do? Who even thinks about this stuff except me?
I see a lot of really sick people. Seeing them reminds me how lucky I am to be alive, and reminds me that I could be a lot worse. How wrong is that? I’m using other people’s pain to console myself & make myself feel better.
Y.C.
Our lives are so busy & filled with so much anxiety already. There are so many things we “have” to do; in our limited free time when we do get to choose, we need to be selective and do things that will give us joy, or at the very least calmness. When it is our free time, the only obligation we should have is to ourself - to be the best, healthiest, happiest person we can be.
The relationships we have doesn’t need to look like what society/culture/peers deems to be normal. If the interactions are comfortable, not contrived, and everyone involved is content, then just accept that it is a normal and healthy relationship that is working for you right now.
When children mis-behave they need to be disciplined. They need rules and punishments. They need to know expectations, and they need to be accountable for their actions. Children need predictability and when all of this is done with reasoning they will feel safe and loved. Some children just need to be spanked. And some need therapy.
Spend time with people that give you joy. But it’s OK to say “no” to those same people once-in-awhile because we all need quiet time too. Don’t be so insecure - I still love you!
Parents shouldn’t have to watch their children die. Is it terrible of me to wish my parents die before I do? Who even thinks about this stuff except me?
I see a lot of really sick people. Seeing them reminds me how lucky I am to be alive, and reminds me that I could be a lot worse. How wrong is that? I’m using other people’s pain to console myself & make myself feel better.
Y.C.
