They'll Be OK #2

Last month I had another "They'll Be OK" moment.  What is that, you ask.  Well, first it's the title of an earlier post by YC.  Every once in a while she would tell me that our girls will be okay - because we are raising them to be good girls.  And that's what important isn't it?  Parents will always want their kids to be hard-working, smart, athletic, pretty, artistic, musically inclined, etc.  Wouldn't it be nice if they were good at everything?  But that's not possible.  And if I had to choose one quality above all, it would be that they are good people.

The phrase "They'll Be OK" is something YC would say to me when she thought about our daughters' futures.  Sometimes when I would play something with the girls or watch a movie with them, if YC was resting upstairs, she would hear us laughing and having a good time.  Then when I went to see her, she would say, "I love it when the girls have a fun time with you.  That tells me they'll be okay.  They'll be okay when I'm gone."  Yes, we had grim conversations like that quite often.  But I think YC was comforted and content in feeling that our girls will be okay.

So last month was M1's birthday - her sweet 16.  M2 and M3 wanted to do something special for their big sister.  They made her a gift basket with 16 gifts.  Some were hand crafted and some were purchased.  I did not have a lot of input other than help in purchasing because I didn't want them going out too much with the COVID situation.  The basket was decorated nicely by M3.  Perhaps the one gift that was most touching was that they asked all their grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and M1's closest friends to say a few birthday wishes in a video and they streamed them all together.  This was particularly difficult for M2 because she is very shy and doesn't like to ask people to do things like this.  But she stepped out of her comfort zone for her sister.  She talked to M1's friends at dance without M1 knowing.  She had to request to follow some of M1's friends on some social media platforms (I may not be describing this correctly as I don't participate in many social media activities) so that she could ask them to make the video.  M2 kept telling me how awkward she felt talking to these people.  But she still managed to do it.

When M1 received the gifts, she was really happy.  It made her day.  It made my day too because I saw how much effort M2 and M3 put in to make M1 happy.  One other thing that makes this impressive is that M2's and M3's birthdays passed in the summer and M1 didn't make a big deal out of their birthdays.  M1 is a bit lazy that way.  She didn't even get M3 a present.  She just promised to spend the whole day playing with her.  But when M3's birthday came, M1 was not feeling well and they did not play.  When I pointed this out, M1 said, "But I'm always a good sister.  It doesn't have to be on a birthday."  And this is true.  She is a good sister; she takes care of M2 and M3 and tries to ensure they are happy.  Logically, why would M2 and M3 be so excited about M1's birthday and her happiness if M1 was not a good sister?

So that day when I witnessed how my three girls care about each other, I said to YC, "They'll be OK."

Big Oh