First Ever April Break: Days 5 and 6

Day 5

Once again I was able to eat lunch with the girls and I worked to about 3:00.  This time I did not go back to work right after lunch.  Instead I sat in with M3 on her virtual field trip to the zoo.  It was a trip through the African rainforest and we saw giraffes, snakes, lizards, hippos, and more.  I think I liked it more than M3 as she doesn't really like animals and told me before that if her class goes on a field trip to the zoo she would not go.  But I thought she would enjoy a virtual trip.

Later on, the girls and I were able to go outside and play some basketball.  Other than that, M1 and M2 have been couch potatoes, binge watching Modern Family.  M3 did get some finger knitting done again today.  After dinner, we couldn't decide what move to watch so M3 and I played Monopoly Deal while the two big girls just did their own thing.

One funny thing that happened today was that my mom learned a new English word and started using it.  I received a silly text from someone regarding an NHL trade and I said, "What an idiot!"  My mom asked what is an idiot and we explained it to her.  Then she started calling the girls idiots.  "Hey idiot, turn on casino for me."

Day 6

Not much going on today - I worked most of the day.  I did get out at lunch time to bring home some McDonalds.  The girls and grandma had a craving.

To avoid being couch potatoes (the girls are saying that phrase a lot this week) the whole break, M1 and M2 actually did some homework that was assigned to them over the break.  They also started preparing the frosting for the cake they are going to bake on Friday, along with M3.

After dinner we watched the hockey game and the Leafs lost again - tough week for them.  It would have been a ho-hum day but something exciting happened just before bedtime.  The girls usually sit with grandma for a bit before they go to sleep, especially if she's playing her on-line casino games.  I was in my room with M3 and M1 was watching grandma play.  We hear some cheering and my mom saying, "Again! Again!"  So M3 goes over to see what's happening.  Then there's more noise and M2 goes over.  Eventually they call me over too.  My mom kept getting free spins - first she got 10, then before the 10 spins were done, she got another 10, then again and again.  In total, she got 40 free spins on a 60 cent wager.  She won $132 on that spin and ended up winning over $300 for the day.  So she said she would treat us to sushi lunch tomorrow (Uber Eats, of course).  The girls like sushi and the game she was playing was a sushi game where her free spins came about because she had three shrimps in a row (or something like that).  Nice to end the night on a positive note again.

Big Oh

First Ever April Break: Days 3 and 4

Day 3

I worked a full day today so nothing eventful from my side.  I did manage to eat lunch with the girls, which is nice because we rarely get to eat lunch together on weekdays.  M1 & M2 usually eat at 11:30 and I eat with M3 at 12:30 because they have different schedules for on-line schooling.  My mom just eats whenever as she spends her mornings talking to her siblings, in-laws, and/or other children about the latest COVID numbers.  Her shingles pain was bothering her again so the girls just put a frozen chicken pot pie in the oven.

In the afternoon the girls told me they were just being couch potatoes - watching TV or YouTube.  M3 did manage to paint a little bit, making use of the corner that was cleared for her on Sunday.  M2 also got in her 1/2 hour of daily exercise that she rarely misses.  Later on she also knitted a small stuffed animal (stuffed with cotton balls) that was a whale.  Knitting is a new hobby she picked up during the pandemic.

After dinner we watched the hockey game.  The Leafs lost.  M3 skipped the 3rd period to set up the Escape Room game that she had been working on for two days.  M1, M2, and I played in 3 different rooms to see who would be able to make it out first.  The clues were the same for all of us.  I was very impressed with M3's setup of the game as the clues led from one to the next and they involved items that were present in all three rooms so there was no advantage for anyone.  The clues were clever and made sense.  M3 said she got the ideas from the internet.  We all needed hints and it took us about 20 - 25 minutes to get out.  M1 was first, M2 was second, and I was last (but I think I used the least hints - that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it).  That was definitely our highlight of the day and it was good to end the day on that note.

Day 4

I tried to take the afternoon off today but still had to work a little bit.  I stopped at around 3:00.  Again, we all had lunch together and grandma was feeling better so she made noodles and vermicelli.  In the morning, M3 finger-knitted some stuff and I'm not sure what they are for.  She said they can be used as a keychain or just some kind of decoration.

After I stopped working I went to the grocery store to buy stuff for the girls so they could bake.  The list had ingredients for their cousin Addison's birthday cake which they would bake on Friday.  They also listed ingredients for lemon squares which they started working on when I got home.  This time it wasn't as peaceful as the Sunday night when they baked cookies.  There was some yelling but not too serious.  I didn't do too much and only helped squeeze lemon juice when M3 got bored of it.

While the lemon squares were baking and the two big girls were getting ready for dinner, M3 and I went out to the driveway to play a little basketball.

M1 called us in when the lemon squares were done.  But M2 didn't want us to eat any yet because they were supposed to cool down first and then be chilled in the fridge.  This is how their different personalities can sometimes lead to arguments.  M2 always follows the instructions.  M3 is very impulsive, excitable, and wants to do things right away.  M1 just wants to eat.  So M1 and M3 ate a few pieces of lemon squares while they were warm.  M2 and I waited until after dinner.  They were very good.

We also watched the Leaf game after dinner.  They lost again but at least they got a point in overtime.  After that, M1 and M3 watched This is Us, their weekly routine.  M2 and I played a Burmese card game that we call "Hollywood".  It's similar to Gin Rummy.

Big Oh

First Ever April Break: Day 2

Today was not as good a day for me as was yesterday.  It was more of an up and down day but (spoiler alert) it ended on a positive note. I tend to get that "Sunday feeling" now.  It's like that feeling you get in school after the Christmas holidays and you don't want to go back.  I feel like that almost every Sunday - I'm all lethargic and I even feel sad about going to work on Monday.

After breakfast, the girls decided to clean a portion of the living room where we kept M3's toys and M1's and M2's old dance costumes.  First M1 cleared out some stuff in her closet so that the costumes could be moved there.  All this cleaning was done to create an area where M3 could paint when we sign up for her art class.

Next M3 and I baked mozzarella sticks, coated with crushed Cheetos.  M3 found the recipe from YouTube.  Neither of us are that skilled in the kitchen so we made a big mess with flour and eggs all over the place.  The finished product did not look like it did in the YouTube video but it tasted alright.  I would say it was a 7/10.

M1 and M2 had online dance classes today - separately - so they danced in separate rooms after a brief mini-argument about who gets the bigger space in the basement (M2 got it because she called it first).  During this time I did some work (I need to stop working on the weekend - maybe that's what gives me that Sunday feeling) and M3 wrote in her journal.  She doesn't do this a lot so I was pleased she was doing it during the holiday.

I was able to run on the treadmill in the afternoon after not doing so for over a week.  Since the first lockdown last March, I've been running almost everyday - until about January.  As I said before, that's when I got really busy at work.  It became 3-4 times a week of running.  Then only on the weekends.  In March I even started skipping my weekend runs.  Hopefully I can get back into it.

My mom got shingles last month and she is still in pain on some days.  Today was not a great day for her so M1 helped her with her laundry and I was able to clean her bathroom.  My mom is a clean freak and normally does not let anyone clean her things but now she has no choice.  After cleaning her bathroom I also cleaned the girls' bathtub and shower stall.  So I was getting things done again and that made me feel a little bit better.

After dancing, M1 and M2 watched a movie - Lemonade Mouth.  It was an old Disney movie that they used to watch over and over again for a period when they were younger.  But now they were watching it so that they could make fun of how cheesy the acting and dialogue was.  They just kept making jokes about how silly the movie was and how it was crazy that they used to like it so much.  I didn't watch with them, except for one song in the movie that they made me listen to.  M3 didn't watch either as she was busy making an Escape Room game for us.  She's not done yet but we'll probably play it some time this week.

After dinner the girls had a sudden urge to bake cookies.  So they did, at 9:30.  I went to check emails and do some work and also start this blog.  I thought I would join them when they started fighting, which normally happens when the three of them try to do something together.  But this time there was no fighting.  And the cookies tasted really good!  They looked nice too.  Usually they are a blob or are burnt or are missing some ingredient.  But to paraphrase M1, "Wow, this is the first time we did it perfectly!  We didn't fight and the cookies taste and look like they're supposed to."  So we had milk and cookies at 10:30 PM.  Most days that would not be good but when it's the first ever April Break, anything can happen, and this is a wonderful ending to the day.

Big Oh

First Ever April Break: Day 1

Whenever we went on vacations, even mini ones like to Niagara Falls or downtown Toronto, YC liked to blog about what we did each day.  We obviously can't go on any vacations under the current Stay At Home orders (lockdown, shutdown - whatever you want to call it).  But the pandemic has given us our first ever April Break, so I'm going to try and blog about our daily events.  I did not take the week off work as I am in the middle of quarter end reporting but I might try to take some afternoons off.  I might not blog every day, maybe I'll combine a few days into one blog.

When is the official start of April Break?  It's probably Monday the 12th, but for the purposes of this blog, I'm going to say today is day 1.  Today was a nice, relaxing day - something I haven't had in a long time.  Why?  Because I have been extremely busy at work since January (maybe even December but the Christmas break helped).  Also because I feel I have so many things to do.  My brother Pepe keeps telling me to enjoy the moment, enjoy the journey.  Don't view my life as a series of goals that I need to accomplish.  Today was a bit of both.  I enjoyed the moments and I also felt I got some things done.  So here's what we did.

9:00 AM - Had breakfast with M2 and M3. - Enjoyed the moment.

10:00 - Took M2 to a chiropodist appointment.  She has a flat arch and is going to get orthotics.  We talked about insurance fraud. - Got stuff done and enjoyed the journey.

11:00 - Came home and saw that M1 was helping my mom cook lunch (simple stuff - pot stickers and leftover pizza from yesterday's takeout).  I was happy that M1 is growing up and taking care of the family.  She knew that M2 had a virtual dance class at 12:15 and needed to eat lunch early. - Enjoyed the moment.

11:30 - I went to Shoppers Drug Mart and took advantage of the promotion to get $65 for redeeming $50 worth of points.  Do you know how hard it is to spend $65 at Shoppers without buying cosmetics?  So I ended up buying some face cream to bring my total to $67. - Got stuff done and enjoyed getting a discount.

2:00 PM - After lunch I vacuumed my room and the hallway. - Got stuff done.

3:00 - M1 cut my mom's hair and mine.  Her salon skills have improved a lot during the pandemic.  A year ago when she cut my hair for the first time, it was so bad that M2 cried. - Got stuff done.

4:00 -  M3 is taking an interest in painting and her work looks better than mine, although that's not saying much.  M1 found some on-line classes for her and we browsed through them.  We didn't sign up yet but we will. - Enjoyed the journey.

4:30 - Answered some work emails and pulled out some weeds in the garden.  Even though it was only about 15 minutes for each task, I felt I accomplished something for work and made some progress in the garden.  I know I need to stop doing this or feeling stressed if I don't do things like this.  But nevertheless, I got stuff done in this half hour while waiting for the girls to get ready for biking.

5:00 - Went for nice bike ride my my girls. - Enjoyed the journey.

6:00 - Played basketball with M2 and M3 while M1 went to help my mom peel some potatoes for dinner. - Enjoyed the moment.

7:00 - My mom and Pepe prepared my favourite Burmese dish for dinner. - Enjoyed the moment.

8:00 - Watched the hockey game with my daughters.  The Leafs won. Auston Matthews got a hat trick and Jack Campbell set an NHL record for most consecutive wins from the start of the season (11) - Enjoyed the moment.

10:00 - Watched the latest episode of the Mighty Ducks TV series with my daughters. - Enjoyed the moment.

I hope there will be more "enjoy the journey/moment" moments and less fretting over "getting stuff done".

Big Oh

They'll Be OK #2

Last month I had another "They'll Be OK" moment.  What is that, you ask.  Well, first it's the title of an earlier post by YC.  Every once in a while she would tell me that our girls will be okay - because we are raising them to be good girls.  And that's what important isn't it?  Parents will always want their kids to be hard-working, smart, athletic, pretty, artistic, musically inclined, etc.  Wouldn't it be nice if they were good at everything?  But that's not possible.  And if I had to choose one quality above all, it would be that they are good people.

The phrase "They'll Be OK" is something YC would say to me when she thought about our daughters' futures.  Sometimes when I would play something with the girls or watch a movie with them, if YC was resting upstairs, she would hear us laughing and having a good time.  Then when I went to see her, she would say, "I love it when the girls have a fun time with you.  That tells me they'll be okay.  They'll be okay when I'm gone."  Yes, we had grim conversations like that quite often.  But I think YC was comforted and content in feeling that our girls will be okay.

So last month was M1's birthday - her sweet 16.  M2 and M3 wanted to do something special for their big sister.  They made her a gift basket with 16 gifts.  Some were hand crafted and some were purchased.  I did not have a lot of input other than help in purchasing because I didn't want them going out too much with the COVID situation.  The basket was decorated nicely by M3.  Perhaps the one gift that was most touching was that they asked all their grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and M1's closest friends to say a few birthday wishes in a video and they streamed them all together.  This was particularly difficult for M2 because she is very shy and doesn't like to ask people to do things like this.  But she stepped out of her comfort zone for her sister.  She talked to M1's friends at dance without M1 knowing.  She had to request to follow some of M1's friends on some social media platforms (I may not be describing this correctly as I don't participate in many social media activities) so that she could ask them to make the video.  M2 kept telling me how awkward she felt talking to these people.  But she still managed to do it.

When M1 received the gifts, she was really happy.  It made her day.  It made my day too because I saw how much effort M2 and M3 put in to make M1 happy.  One other thing that makes this impressive is that M2's and M3's birthdays passed in the summer and M1 didn't make a big deal out of their birthdays.  M1 is a bit lazy that way.  She didn't even get M3 a present.  She just promised to spend the whole day playing with her.  But when M3's birthday came, M1 was not feeling well and they did not play.  When I pointed this out, M1 said, "But I'm always a good sister.  It doesn't have to be on a birthday."  And this is true.  She is a good sister; she takes care of M2 and M3 and tries to ensure they are happy.  Logically, why would M2 and M3 be so excited about M1's birthday and her happiness if M1 was not a good sister?

So that day when I witnessed how my three girls care about each other, I said to YC, "They'll be OK."

Big Oh

Graduation #2

This past Wednesday was M2's Grade 8 graduation ceremony.  I was very happy and proud.  But as I am finding these days, moments like this are immediately followed by sadness and empty feelings.  Two years ago, M1 had her Grade 8 graduation and my beautiful wife wrote a blog, titled "Graduation #1."  She didn't describe the events of the ceremony.  She was just happy and relieved to have been able to be there.  She asked me how many graduations she would make it to.  I wished she would make it to all of them.

M2's ceremony was supposed to be in June but because we were in lockdown, the school wanted to wait until September to see if there was a chance to do this in person.  So do we buy a dress or not?  Well, M2 was selected to be valedictorian (just like M1), so I felt we should buy a dress.  Some of YC's lady friends took M2 shopping for a dress.  This was difficult for her because she wanted to do this with Mommy.  Although M2 was very grateful for her aunties helping her, she was sad.  I was sad too because I couldn't do more to help her.  I told her, "You see Daddy's clothes, right?  There's no way I can help you find a decent dress."  But after she got a dress, she was very happy because she looked good in it.  She wore it around the house for several days.

Well, September came and went and it was decided that the graduation ceremony would be done virtually in November.  M2 was to send in a video of herself giving the valedictorian speech.  She put on her dress for that and she said it was nice because it's not as nerve-wracking when it's not in front of an audience.  And if she messes up, she can start over.  She did an amazing job - spoke confidently and clearly.

On November 18, we were all excited to watch the ceremony.  But there were technical difficulties and it was postponed to December 2.  (I can't understand why it took two weeks to fix some pre-recorded video - I assume they had the video ready on November 18.)  So this past Wednesday, the link came out at 9:30 AM.  The girls were doing on-line schooling and I was in a meeting.  M2 wanted to watch but I asked her to wait until 10:00 when my meeting would be over.  So we all gathered to watch at 10:00, except for M3 who was writing a Math test and couldn't join us until 10:30.

Overall I thought it was a nice video.  There were lots of pictures and video clips of the students throughout their 10 years at this school.  I had a lot of emotions - happy, excited, proud, sad.  For occasions like this we always put YC's picture with us so we can watch together.  But as always, I think to myself, "I wish you were beside me so we can see this together."

Big Oh

Elephants in the Room

 

We never addressed the elephants in the room – neither YC nor I.  So I should just come out and say it now.  YC was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer back in January 2014 – elephant #1.  After a long and heroic battle, she passed away in March 2020 – elephant #2.

My wife loved to write.  She wrote when she was happy, she wrote when she was sad, and she wrote when she was bored.  She started this blog to help her deal with her diagnosis – to give her an outlet to express her feelings.  She wrote because it was therapeutic for her.  But she never once mentioned the c word.  She alluded to her being sick but she never used that word.  She told me she didn’t want to because she didn’t want to give the disease more energy, more control over her.  I never mentioned it either.  Even to this day, I have trouble hearing the word.

YC wrote about many things in this blog during her battle – our family, significant events, family trips and outings, restaurant reviews, books she was reading, movies/TV shows, and sometimes just random thoughts.  There were also some entries written by my daughters and by me.  After she left us, I re-read all her blogs.  Then I thought, “What do I do with this blog?”  Do we continue it?  What should I write about?

YC set up a comments section because several friends and family members would email her about blogs she had written.  She thought the comments section would be more convenient.  But no one left comments.  If there are any readers out there that still read this blog, perhaps you can leave me a comment to let me know what you would like to happen to this blog?  Do you want my daughters and me to continue blogging here?  If so, what do you want to read about?  Our lives?  How we’re dealing with COVID-19?  Movies and TV shows we’ve picked up?  School?  Family and friends?

I see there are views of this blog in France, Poland, and the Ukraine.  We don’t know anyone in those countries, so perhaps there is a readership following of this blog outside of our family and friends.  Leave a comment and let us know how you got interested in my wife’s blogging.

Big Oh